Spicing it up with trust: Jalandhar couple leads happy married life

Gurnaaz Kaur

After 23 years of being married, Dr Jaspreet Singh Grover, a surgeon who runs a private hospital in Amritsar and Raminder Grover, a fashion designer, say it is trust and space that are essential for a happy married life.

College crush

Raminder Grover: I was a student of BBK DAV and I never knew he was in love with me until he proposed.

Jaspreet Singh Grover: It was almost three decades back in 1989 when I was in medical college and she was in BBK DAV college. For years, I would bunk classes just to see her pass by my college gate.

Time to tie the knot

R: Ours was a love-cum-arranged marriage in 1993.

J: After kind of following her or you can say just admiring her for four years, I went up to my uncle and requested him to find out about the girl and her family. He helped our parents meet and that’s the first time I spoke to her.

Life changed 360 degree

R: All of a sudden it was a new life where I was busy with my kids and husband, it was a total transformation.

J: From a freebird to caring husband and father, it has been a wonderful change.

Being together means

R: It’s a wonderful experience to live with a man who is loving, jolly natured and so caring.

J: It’s a bliss when you have an understanding partner, who is more of a friend.

Favourite activities

Both: We love travelling abroad, dancing and partying.

Scope for change

R: I just want to limit his phone calls. Otherwise he is perfect.

J: I have a perfect partner, but I wish I could give her more time.

When it gets annoying

R: His lame excuses when he is late and I’m ready for a function.

J: She snatches my phone when I am in the middle of a chat.

Let’s unwind

Both: Our way of relaxing is watching shows and movies, going shopping and catching up with friends

Couple goals

R: To provide the best education for both our sons who are pursuing medicine.

J: Yes, she is right, that’s top of the list.

Wow factor

R: The wow factor in our relationship is that we are friends first. In him, it is his sense of humour.

J: Her beauty and fitness. She is diet conscious, a fitness freak and that’s why she still looks so young.

To make a marriage work

R: It’s the understanding between husband and wife that keeps it going. Trust is also the base of this relationship.

J: I think it’s the rapport you build with each other, being each other’s best friend.

Space talk

R: Space is very important, having time for self and being able to focus on your individual goals is a healthy sign in a relationship.

J: Everyone needs space. We have been together for 27 years and we have formed a bond so strong because we give ample space to each other.

Of lockdown memories

R: The lockdown gave us an opportunity to come closer. This was indeed a blessing in disguise.

J: The lockdown period was the best time I spent with my wife, children and parents.

A new hobby

R: Evening walks and gym became our daily routine.

J: We started gymming.